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So we go to family therapy and the therapist wants to talk about what we can do to make things "more comfortable" at home.  First of all, I'm thinking get rid of a few people and tape up some mouths...but I can't do that.  So, she goes around the room and starts asking questions and no one wants to answer her.  Why?  Well we have nothing really nice to say at the moment.  Everyone wants to complain about what the other one did wrong.  The arguing between everyone is making me nuts.  How do other families do it?  How do they get along ALL the time?  If I could just get everyone to shut-up and stop complaining about each other, life would be great!  I guess to do that, we would have to get to the root of the problems and fix them.  Makes sense doesn't it?  Well the therapist doesn't want anyone complaining or "blaming" each other for things.  She just wants everyone to let it all go and be kind to each other.  WTF???  How the hell is that going to happen when the root of the problem is not stopped?  The root of the problem keeps doing things to piss everyone off and needs to be fixed so no one keeps hating it.  I thought these therapists were supposed to know what they are doing.  Ignore it and it will go away...LMFAO!  Nothing just goes away!  I mean come on, if you have a crazy dog trying to attack you, do you just stand still and look the other way and hope it doesn't chew your ass off?  Give me some ideas people.  How do I get the kids to stop fighting?